Will I? Or am I? This sentence is something I am starting to hear all too often as I write and speak openly about our desire to have more children after losing Teddy. I find myself staring at those words or hearing them over and over again in my mind. Is it that people don’t realise what they are saying, or are they simply saying I’ll make a good mother to a baby who actually gets to be physically mothered by me? The truth is, I’m not sure.