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26th March 2020 by Elle 3 Comments

“True love is your soul’s recognition of its counterpoint in another”

Just before my husband and I got married, a friend sent us a card with this quote written on the front.  At the time I saw it as just a nice quote without really understanding its meaning – and then I met my son.  Then I realised what true love really is.  I saw so much of Garry and I in Ruairidh, from Garry’s massive feet to my facial features.  I never thought I could love anyone as much as I love my husband, but Ruairidh gave him a good run for his money. 

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elle A blog of learning to navigate through life when the plan doesn’t go to plan. When the unthinkable happened, my home saved me. My passion for creating a home became a lifeline; a way of recovery. Here, I share with you some of my thoughts, my home style and most importantly how this all came to be after the loss of our beautiful baby boy, Teddy. Teddy lived for just three days, his time on this earth may have been short, but his impact has been immense. This is my motherhood.

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The big 6 🥳 Happy Birthday to the best friend, The big 6 🥳
Happy Birthday to the best friend, best cuddler, best listener (sometimes, unless food is involved🤷🏼‍♀️), best big brother and best all-round entertainer that team Wright could wish for!  He’s not the best at giving advice, but we’ll let him off. What he lacks in stature he more than makes up for in personality!
Boz, we love you. Never change, you beautiful little soul🥰
(Photos from a distant time when fun flowed wild and free, and we could all just frolic on the sand as we pleased😂) 
#birthdayboy #bringbackfrolicking #puglove
Last year, it wasn’t the one any of us hoped it Last year, it wasn’t the one any of us hoped it might be, it became something none of us could have ever imagined. And yet, for me, it has also been a year that brought us more happiness as a family than we have felt in a very long time. A feeling of happiness that I had feared might never return.🌈💓
It’s been five months since I ventured into this little corner of the internet, so I’m tiptoeing back in (unlike Boz who decided to make an entrance🙄) and I’m not quite sure if there’s anyone here still listening?🤔😂 
I’ve been lucky enough to spend the past five or so months doing all of the things I have dreamed of doing for so long, and yet simultaneously doing none of the things I thought we might be able to do. There have been ups and downs; days filled with the happiest of happy tears, and days of complete and utter overwhelm. All in all, I’ve learned that time away from here, from this, is really good for me.  It’s something I hope to do much more of.  Yet, here I find myself, back again. Doing what? I’m not entirely sure, but I hope you’ll also be here to follow along with some of the things I’ve been working on for 2021...🤞🏼💫🌈
#babyimback #teddyslegacy 
(P.S- This little room is finally filled with the most delicious little chuckles, and it makes my heart burst with happiness💓)
👋🏼Bye for Now👋🏼 Just over 3 & 1/2 year 👋🏼Bye for Now👋🏼
Just over 3 & 1/2 years ago I began writing my blog to share a narrative of motherhood that wasn’t getting the airtime it deserved, and as I did, this little corner of the internet grew, beyond anything I ever could have imagined.  I began dedicating much of my time to raising awareness and funds in Teddy’s name, and finally by writing Ask Me His Name.
I’ve connected with thousands of bereaved parents since then, and so many of you, who like me, have had quite the journey (or are still on it!) to becoming a parent.  I’ve spent hundreds of hours (definitely more🙈) completely consumed by this app; in DMs and comments, trying my best to keep connected to everyone.
And now, she’s here...🌈💗
This has been our dream for so long, a take-home chick.  I’m now acutely aware, more so than ever, of all of the things we missed out on with her big brother.  Everyone keeps telling me how quickly these first weeks and months go, and I don’t want to miss a second with her to be staring at my phone screen instead. 
So excuse me, just for now, while I back out of this room slowly, close the door quietly behind me and simply say...

You’ve all been incredible, and it’s not goodbye, it’s see you all soon.  I don’t know exactly when I’ll be back, I just need a break, to enjoy this little one and immerse myself in the overwhelming privilege of being able to finally hold our baby.  I hope you can understand❤️🙏🏼

Look after each other, stay safe, be kind to one another, and remember....when life hands you that big old bag of lemons🍋 Promise me that you’ll never, ever, give up HOPE✨🌈✌🏼
#onabreak #seeyousoon #featheringtheNOTSOemptynest #atlast

(Another image from my friend/genius @sketchymuma )
A little...GIRL💗🌈 Our hearts have been full A little...GIRL💗🌈
Our hearts have been full since May 2016, but since last week our arms finally have been too, with the most perfect surprise🥰🌈
This little miracle arrived by emergency Caesarean section, a little earlier than had been meticulously planned for (pretty traumatic and involving a 999 call and a blue light ambulance to hospital, but that’s definitely a story for another day😳🙈). She was lifted safely into the world by our incredible consultant, who we will never be able to thank enough for the care and support she has given us over the last four years. 
We came home last Thursday, we are all safe and well, and we are all slowly (just about) getting this figured out with our newest team member! 
Boris is (as expected) the best and proudest big brother! 👏🏼😭
Our real life rainbow is finally here, and she feels like a beautiful dream come true...🌈💫

#mygirl #rainbowbaby
#teddyisabigbrother #believeinmiraclesandmagic
Waiting for a rainbow....🌈 Last week I posted a Waiting for a rainbow....🌈
Last week I posted a blog post. Most likely my last for a long while.  Thank you to everyone who took the time to read it and leave such kind comments over there.  I’ve tried to make sense of all the intense emotions in these last weeks, but the truth is, that as we near the end of this, my anxiety and fears have become all consuming.

Pregnancy after a neonatal death is hard, because for us, the scariest part is yet to come.  I have focused so hard, for so long, on just becoming pregnant again, that I never stopped to imagine how hard this pregnancy might be.  There is no bag packed, the hum of excitement and anticipation that usually hangs in the air before an impending arrival is replaced by unsaid worries and “what ifs”, and the car seat remains firmly in the loft where it was packed away four years ago amidst tears. 

We aren’t waiting for a ‘happy ending’, because the arrival of a living child will never simply erase the death of another.  But we are hoping for a new, much happier, chapter to begin...🤞🏼🌈✨👋🏼

#growingarainbow #thefinalfurlong #pregnancyafterloss #overandout 
{Thank you to @illustratedbyvictoria for this image of me growing our rainbow whilst looking out for our star⭐️💙)
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The big 6 🥳 Happy Birthday to the best friend, The big 6 🥳
Happy Birthday to the best friend, best cuddler, best listener (sometimes, unless food is involved🤷🏼‍♀️), best big brother and best all-round entertainer that team Wright could wish for!  He’s not the best at giving advice, but we’ll let him off. What he lacks in stature he more than makes up for in personality!
Boz, we love you. Never change, you beautiful little soul🥰
(Photos from a distant time when fun flowed wild and free, and we could all just frolic on the sand as we pleased😂) 
#birthdayboy #bringbackfrolicking #puglove
Last year, it wasn’t the one any of us hoped it Last year, it wasn’t the one any of us hoped it might be, it became something none of us could have ever imagined. And yet, for me, it has also been a year that brought us more happiness as a family than we have felt in a very long time. A feeling of happiness that I had feared might never return.🌈💓
It’s been five months since I ventured into this little corner of the internet, so I’m tiptoeing back in (unlike Boz who decided to make an entrance🙄) and I’m not quite sure if there’s anyone here still listening?🤔😂 
I’ve been lucky enough to spend the past five or so months doing all of the things I have dreamed of doing for so long, and yet simultaneously doing none of the things I thought we might be able to do. There have been ups and downs; days filled with the happiest of happy tears, and days of complete and utter overwhelm. All in all, I’ve learned that time away from here, from this, is really good for me.  It’s something I hope to do much more of.  Yet, here I find myself, back again. Doing what? I’m not entirely sure, but I hope you’ll also be here to follow along with some of the things I’ve been working on for 2021...🤞🏼💫🌈
#babyimback #teddyslegacy 
(P.S- This little room is finally filled with the most delicious little chuckles, and it makes my heart burst with happiness💓)
👋🏼Bye for Now👋🏼 Just over 3 & 1/2 year 👋🏼Bye for Now👋🏼
Just over 3 & 1/2 years ago I began writing my blog to share a narrative of motherhood that wasn’t getting the airtime it deserved, and as I did, this little corner of the internet grew, beyond anything I ever could have imagined.  I began dedicating much of my time to raising awareness and funds in Teddy’s name, and finally by writing Ask Me His Name.
I’ve connected with thousands of bereaved parents since then, and so many of you, who like me, have had quite the journey (or are still on it!) to becoming a parent.  I’ve spent hundreds of hours (definitely more🙈) completely consumed by this app; in DMs and comments, trying my best to keep connected to everyone.
And now, she’s here...🌈💗
This has been our dream for so long, a take-home chick.  I’m now acutely aware, more so than ever, of all of the things we missed out on with her big brother.  Everyone keeps telling me how quickly these first weeks and months go, and I don’t want to miss a second with her to be staring at my phone screen instead. 
So excuse me, just for now, while I back out of this room slowly, close the door quietly behind me and simply say...

You’ve all been incredible, and it’s not goodbye, it’s see you all soon.  I don’t know exactly when I’ll be back, I just need a break, to enjoy this little one and immerse myself in the overwhelming privilege of being able to finally hold our baby.  I hope you can understand❤️🙏🏼

Look after each other, stay safe, be kind to one another, and remember....when life hands you that big old bag of lemons🍋 Promise me that you’ll never, ever, give up HOPE✨🌈✌🏼
#onabreak #seeyousoon #featheringtheNOTSOemptynest #atlast

(Another image from my friend/genius @sketchymuma )
A little...GIRL💗🌈 Our hearts have been full A little...GIRL💗🌈
Our hearts have been full since May 2016, but since last week our arms finally have been too, with the most perfect surprise🥰🌈
This little miracle arrived by emergency Caesarean section, a little earlier than had been meticulously planned for (pretty traumatic and involving a 999 call and a blue light ambulance to hospital, but that’s definitely a story for another day😳🙈). She was lifted safely into the world by our incredible consultant, who we will never be able to thank enough for the care and support she has given us over the last four years. 
We came home last Thursday, we are all safe and well, and we are all slowly (just about) getting this figured out with our newest team member! 
Boris is (as expected) the best and proudest big brother! 👏🏼😭
Our real life rainbow is finally here, and she feels like a beautiful dream come true...🌈💫

#mygirl #rainbowbaby
#teddyisabigbrother #believeinmiraclesandmagic
Waiting for a rainbow....🌈 Last week I posted a Waiting for a rainbow....🌈
Last week I posted a blog post. Most likely my last for a long while.  Thank you to everyone who took the time to read it and leave such kind comments over there.  I’ve tried to make sense of all the intense emotions in these last weeks, but the truth is, that as we near the end of this, my anxiety and fears have become all consuming.

Pregnancy after a neonatal death is hard, because for us, the scariest part is yet to come.  I have focused so hard, for so long, on just becoming pregnant again, that I never stopped to imagine how hard this pregnancy might be.  There is no bag packed, the hum of excitement and anticipation that usually hangs in the air before an impending arrival is replaced by unsaid worries and “what ifs”, and the car seat remains firmly in the loft where it was packed away four years ago amidst tears. 

We aren’t waiting for a ‘happy ending’, because the arrival of a living child will never simply erase the death of another.  But we are hoping for a new, much happier, chapter to begin...🤞🏼🌈✨👋🏼

#growingarainbow #thefinalfurlong #pregnancyafterloss #overandout 
{Thank you to @illustratedbyvictoria for this image of me growing our rainbow whilst looking out for our star⭐️💙)
Eat, sleep, clean everything. Repeat. 🌮🍩😴 Eat, sleep, clean everything. Repeat.
🌮🍩😴🧼🧺♻️
#myhomestyle #kitchendecor #featheringtheemptynest #naplife
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